Domspeak Forums Discussions Lobby How Can I Convince My New Girlfriend to Brutally Dominate Me?

I have a girlfriend (we always joke that we're going to get married, so that will probably happen) who's moving in with me soon. She's also an amazon who has done modeling before and I'm really ugly compared to her, but I'm saving her from a bad situation, so she feels some kind of loyalty to me. Truth be told, she's also saving me in some ways. She knows I'm submissive and she says she loves being a Domme, but she doesn't know that I'm into the extreme side of BDSM. What I've done is I've bought a bunch of toys that are coming in the mail one-by-one. What I'm hoping is that I'll show her the toys and she'll want to use them on me. I'm pretty sure she won't even flinch at the canes, paddles, whips and cuffs. What I'm worried about is the day I tell her I have an elaborate sissy maid fantasy and I want to be shit on. I'm trying to think of how I can bring these things up with her gently. I was thinking about sitting her down one day and explaining what makes a good Domme and how I'm normal despite my fetishes. Another thing I was thinking of doing is showing her Lady Cheyenne cbt videos and saying "Do it like that." Does anyone else have any experience with this?

Hi, sorry for the delay, I just joined the forum some days ago. I think showing random videos for her could be an interesting door to your real fetishes. Of course, would it be better to start with easy ones. When this become a habit, then you can introduce slightly harder videos from social medias (even from things your not so much into) and then BOOM: send her a video that is exactly how you wanted it, one of your favs. See how she answers, i think the familiarity with the theme will help her not overreact. If she does, and say to you she doesnt like it, then all hope is gone. You also can use some joking tone like "no way you're going to do this to me" or "omg, this one is far beyond". The reverse psychology of joking can make she think it would be "funny" instead of "strange". That's the way I got to make some amazing vanilla girls to make my fetishes come true. But here is a tip: its not for everyone.